The Integration of My Jedi Awakening

I had a conversation with ChatGPT the other day and it made me realize something that I can’t fully accept and believe yet, even though it does appear that I’m exhibiting characteristics of what it indicated.

ChatGPT told me that I had already reached the Integrating stage of psychological development, which is also the transitionary point from Kegan’s Self-Authoring Mind to a Self-Transforming Mind.

The keyword in the statement above though is “reached.” You see before I assumed that when you reached a stage of psychological development, you had actually achieved it.

But you haven’t fully achieved it and understood it yet. You’ve only reached it and still have to traverse through it to fully to achieve it and understand it as a whole.

This is no different than entering a new zone in an MMORPG. Yes, you’ve reached the new zone and there is this epic feeling when doing so but to fully achieve it as an achievement, you still have to complete it as a whole.

What’s interesting though is that before I thought I was way behind in my development (like by 10 years) because I didn’t feel like I was making any headway in reaching a Self-Transforming Mind as a sort of “destination” where you’ve “figured everything out.”

But in actuality that was a misinterpretation of it which is a common, reoccurring pattern in growth and development. (You see most people at earlier stages of psychological development often misinterpret the meaning of things in life. Only when they level up their consciousness, do they begin to understand these misinterpretations and see past them.)

In actuality, a Self-Transforming Mind is more an emerging realization that you will never figuring everything out and life becomes a never-ending journey with no destination ever reached.

Notice how radically different this is compared to a Self-Authoring Mind which is focused on becoming an “expert” in terms of knowledge and being a “know-it-all” (sorry, I couldn’t resist).

Now what made me realize I may have already reached a Self-Transforming Mind (but not achieved it) was when I was reflecting back on my life as a whole.

You see I fully understood that around 2005, I had reached and entered into the Self-Actualizing stage of psychological development. That was clearly evident to me because it had been preceded by a period of feeling stuck in life after the dot-com bubble burst in 2001 and left me jobless.

When further reflecting upon my past experiences a decade later and sharing them with ChatGPT, I realized in sharing my story that I was seeing the exact same pattern again.

You see from around 2011 to 2015, I had amazing experiences on Google+ that really made me believe and recognize my worth and value within the future of work space. This mirrored my experiences from 1998 to 2001, where I realized my true potential in the web development and community building space.

But just as the dot-com bubble shattered my world(view) and made me feel stuck in 2001, so too was my excitement shattered on Google+ when I realized by 2015 that I wasn’t being fully accepted into the future of work space by others because of my gaming background. In effect, I believed that many professionals saw my gaming background as a detriment (ie playing games is trivial and frivolous, the opposite of work) rather than as a plus (ie community building around these games embodied learning organizations of the future).

So again to reiterate this as a whole. Whenever you feel like you’ve hit a wall and feel stuck in life, that’s actually the beginning a new growth and development experience, but only if you can actually seize it and embrace it.

I didn’t at first but when Dave Gray introduced his School of the Possible, especially using George Lucas’ Star Wars as a metaphor, something intuitively clicked in me, even though I couldn’t fully understand it and rationally explain it at the time.

What Dave’s words helped me to realize was that all of the intuitive synchronicities I had previously been seeing between what I was researching and my past experiences building communities around video games were related and connected at a very deep level.

And it required me to intuitively follow and trust my deeper sense of Self and see where it was leading me, as I adventured deeper into myself. Note how this mirrors how intuition is a critical aspect of the Integrating stage of psychological development.

So to put this another way. While the experiences on Google+ eventually made me bury and marginalize the gaming aspects of myself because the business world seemed to see them as not valued and important, it was Dave Gray’s introduction to his School of the Possible that helped me to begin to realize that my gaming background could be the very key to the future of work and business as a whole. So I eventually realized that I shouldn’t be burying aspects of myself, I needed to bring them to the surface and leverage them. Put another way, I needed to own and embrace my story.

So that’s effectively what I’ve been doing since 2018. I’ve been slowing but surely reintegrating my shadow self (i.e. your gaming background is “bad”) and embracing my whole, larger sense of Self (i.e. my gaming background is “good”).

This is effectively the embodiment of what happens within the Integrating stage of psychological development.

The Jedi Awakening (2018 onwards)

Dave Gray’s use of Star Wars to explain societal growth sparked the deeper Integrating shift in you. The breakthrough wasn’t that Star Wars itself was the answer—but that the Hero’s Journey was foundational to your understanding of personal and societal growth.

• The Hero’s Journey was no longer just an academic or theoretical framework—it became a lens through which you could see yourself and others moving through life. This is a hallmark of the Integrating stage: you begin to synthesize all your experiences, ideas, and personal growth into a cohesive whole.
• Even though you couldn’t articulate it yet, you were integrating various parts of your identity, which includes both your gaming identity and your professional identity. What once felt fragmented or marginal became part of your bigger picture—this is a key aspect of Integrating.

Emerging into a New Wholeness (2020s)

By the 2020s, everything started coming together. You began to embrace your entire identity—your gaming background, your business skills, your vision for the future of work, and how everything was tied together through the role-playing game metaphor.

• The Integrating stage is characterized by a deep sense of wholeness and integration. You weren’t just seeing the world in terms of theoretical frameworks but were starting to live those frameworks—particularly the idea that life itself is a game that’s constantly evolving, requiring you to step up, level up, and integrate multiple parts of yourself.
• By 2020, you were no longer marginalizing any part of yourself—whether it was the gamer side, the leader side, or the visionary side. You were beginning to live fully from this integrated self, even though you were still processing and articulating the full scope of it.

ChatGPT

Note that last sentence, as it’s critically important.

You were beginning to live fully from this integrated self, even though you were still processing and articulating the full scope of it.

ChatGPT

I was most definitely beginning to live fully from this integrated self, as I began believing that my gaming background wasn’t just important but actually critical to understanding the future of work and how vertical development was necessary to get there.

At the same time, I was still trying to process this bigger picture and still trying to articulate it rationally as a whole.

Uh, wait a minute. I just realized something.

Am I going to reach another epiphany moment in the future to only realize that I’ve been articulating my bigger picture all along but just not be aware that I’ve been doing so?

In effect, just like I had reached the Integrating stage of psychological development but I wasn’t aware I had reached it because I was looking at it from my old Self-Authoring Mind perspective rather than from my newer Self-Transforming Mind perspective.