Now, when I first started to think about all of this, I was reminded of a four year old who’s made an absolute mess of their bedroom. Okay? It’s a creative, although well-intentioned, balls of wools and textures and craft projects that they can no longer clean up because they lack the level of consciousness. And I thought to myself, we humans are that four year old starting at the mess we’ve made, stunned and waiting for an adult to come and clean it up.
Now in cognitive psychology they have a term for when we are living a life that does not match up to truth and it’s called cognitive dissonance. And it creates a very deep sense of despair and loneliness and anxiety. However, when we do choose to face truth front on, no matter how brutal it might be, we experience something called congruence. And that is felt in the human body as a sense of belonging, sense of arrival, and a sense of eerie relief.
And this was the point when I got to where I started to feel I might be on the path that I was seeking. And that’s because collapse was forcing me to ask some very different kinds of questions, some far more beautiful questions.
Life for instance, if we do in fact lose it all, what is left? What truly matters to us? Is it love? Is it nature? Is it relationships?
For me, it’s all of these things.
And then I found myself asking this very, very beautiful question.
Who do I want to be in all of this?
Sarah Wilson
I honestly believe that society has gone beyond the point of no return as well and so it’s not matter of a question of trying to “fix” things anymore, as it’s too late.
Instead it’s more a question of how can people help other people ride through this ending to a new beginning which is similar to what the Berkana Institute describes as the Two Loop Model which was created by Margaret Wheatley and Deborah Frieze to describe how living systems change.
So basically what an individual goes through within the vertical development process where it feels like they are disintegrating and reintegrating into a new Self, society itself will need to do the same thing on a societal scale.
And again the question arises, what role do we each want to play in this transition and transformation?