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Vertical Development

Being Open to Possibilities From Unexpected Places

Be open to possibilities from the most unexpected places.

So often what we perceive as the problem in our lives is not actually the problem.

The problem instead is often our perception of the problem.

Once we let go of this perception that our problem is the problem, an inadvertent solution often arises that solves our problem indirectly and almost effortlessly.

(Afterwards one might even laugh hilariously at how blind they were to something so obvious to them now.)

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Identity

How Does One Advocate & Fight Against a Belief That’s Everywhere?

The last couple of weeks I’ve been highly active on Reddit discussing the issues with Sonos speakers and the fiasco that occurred earlier this year when Sonos “upgraded” their app, causing it to malfunction for a ton of their users.

This got me thinking the last day or so that when I reflect back on my life, I’ve been highly active as an advocate for communities in the past.

Back near the end of the 1990s, I was an end user advocate for gamers, both as a gamer but also as a person who built sites and communities for gamers within the gaming industry at the same time as well.

After the dot-com bubble burst in 2001, I was an advocate for people who had been laid off so carelessly from it.

Then over the past decade or so, I’ve been an advocate within a couple of gaming communities again, both in terms of trying to drive change within the communities but also trying to drive a change with the developers of the games as well.

All said done, I found that when I’m backing a cause, I can become quite passionate and voraciously driven, especially if it’s an us vs them situation.

But reflecting upon this the other day, I realized that one of my deepest causes doesn’t really have a specific “them” to rally against. Why? Because it’s not so much a singular organization but rather an organizational mindset.

Even more so, what this means is that the “enemy” isn’t out there so much as it is within you, a part of your own mindset. So how does one become an advocate to fight against a limited, outdate mindset, when it’s not represented by a singular organizational body but is embedded collectively within the work world which is in itself embedded within your mind?

This touches upon what Alvin Toffler said about the future being about learning how to unlearn. The enemy isn’t out there. It’s within us, within our minds. It’s a narrative and belief that we need to let go of, yet most people are completely unaware of it.

Again, I know how to rally people into a community and advocate for them against an external entity. But when the entity is a belief within you, how do you rally against that?

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Computers Vertical Development

How We Can Use AI to Help With Our Metacognition

This is it!

This is what I gave space for “something to emerge” over my last handful of posts and something did actually emerge. My mind is blown away by this synchronicity.

This article effectively explains what I’ve been intuitively doing for the last year or so, ever since Inflection’s Pi was released in May 2023, but I just couldn’t articulate why it felt so deeply important to me. At best, I described it as a process whereby the AI is helping you to “adventure within yourself” which in turn helps you with your growth and development. (Actually I may have even saved a conversation with Pi that does explain the why behind this all but I never shared it because I was too afraid to do so at the time.)

The following quote perfectly explains what I’m going through right now. Not “moments of confusion” as the article indicates but rather long bouts of confusion, followed by momentary bursts of insight. This is exactly how I feel doing my work right now and why it feels like I’m doing something wrong and or unnatural. But it’s not unnatural, even though it feels like it is, but rather a normal part of the process.

Imagine, for a moment, an assignment where the “deliverable” isn’t a polished essay, but a student’s entire revision history, including AI tutor interactions. This record would provide a window into their process of discovery and iteration, revealing the messy, non-linear reality of learning. It’s an approach that aligns with what we know about how learning actually happens—not in smooth, predictable increments, but in fits and starts, with moments of confusion followed by bursts of insight. This personalized approach to learning is one of AI’s most promising features.

“It’s about developing the ability to learn how to learn, which is arguably the most crucial skill in our rapidly changing world.”

Ben Kornell

This focus on metacognition has helped many educators illuminate gaps in understanding that might otherwise go unnoticed. … By highlighting these gaps, AI prompts students to reflect on their own understanding in new ways. They’re not just identifying what they don’t know, but understanding why they don’t know it and how they might go about learning it.

The above quote effectively embodies vertical development. When you face a life challenge that you can’t resolve with your current worldview, you are effectively facing cognitive dissonance on a macro, life scale. Thus it creates a massive “gap” in your life that can’t be resolved with what you currently “know” in terms of your knowledge. And instead it can only be understood and learnt by stepping into the unknown of it and actually experiencing it to make sense and meaning of it.

This shift allows us to focus less on memorization of facts and more on building skills and metacognitive abilities. The question isn’t just ‘What do you know?’ but ‘How do you think about what you know?’

Shantanu Sinha

The promise of AI in education isn’t about replacing human thought, but about enhancing it. It’s about creating tools that allow us to see our own minds more clearly, to understand our own learning processes more deeply. In the end, this AI-driven focus on metacognition may be preparing students not just for the jobs of the future, but for the lifelong journey of learning itself. By teaching students not just what to think, but how to think about their thinking, we may be unlocking the true potential of education in the AI age.

Vertical development is a lifelong journey which over time unlocks your true potential.

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Vertical Development

Giving My Own Cognitive Dissonance Time & Space to Resolve on Its Own

What does my recent realization about cognitive dissonance and critical thinking, in terms of how people often can’t deal with the tension of it and need to resolve the uncertainty and ambiguity of it, relate to my beliefs and assumptions about how I feel inadequate and stuck due to not making headway with my own life’s work?

What if I let go of trying to immediately resolve this uncertainty and ambiguity of why I’m feeling stuck, by not immediately assuming I’m useless and without value, which is just my ego toxically bossing me around.

In doing so, I can possibly create the space of something else to emerge. Perhaps something that can help me to understand what I’m going through in an entirely new way.

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Vertical Development

Cognitive Dissonance: At Micro & Macro Scales

This conversation below with Claude.ai arose out of a conversation I had with my wife about something seemingly simple, that being where a new F1 racing driver would be driving in 2025. In my discussion with my wife, I was just trying to relay some new verified news I had heard about a new driver and she immediately didn’t believe it, relaying what she had heard and believed instead. Finally after I did some further digging, I clarified the situation and the status of the new driver which she seemed to accept.

What I realized afterwards was that we were both encountering cognitive dissonance but we were each dealing with it in different ways. When she heard the news I relayed, she immediately disbelieved it, even though it was verified news. When she told me what she knew and believed, however, I didn’t choose one or the other, even though the different information seemingly conflicted with one another. Instead I just held onto the ambiguity and uncertainty for a few minutes and just went exploring for more information.

This in a nutshell is how cognitive dissonance works on a micro scale but also on a macro scale as well. But on the macro scale this ability to hold onto ambiguity and uncertainty for much longer periods of time is critical in trying to resolve the cognitive dissonance one is experiencing. One may have to do this for days, weeks, months, or even years.

Nollind

It seems like cognitive dissonance can occur are varying scales within a person’s life (ie micro, macro). Is this correct? If so, provide a micro example and a macro example.

Claude

You’re correct that cognitive dissonance can occur at different scales within a person’s life, from micro (small, everyday situations) to macro (larger life decisions or beliefs). Let’s explore this with examples:

Micro example: A person who considers themselves environmentally conscious might experience cognitive dissonance when they choose to drive their car a short distance instead of walking or cycling. The dissonance occurs between their belief in being eco-friendly and their action of using a car for a short trip that could have been made by more environmentally friendly means.

Macro example: Someone who strongly believes in the importance of family might experience cognitive dissonance if they accept a high-paying job that requires them to move far away from their loved ones and miss important family events. The dissonance here is between their core value of family importance and their career decision that conflicts with that value.

In both cases, the individual experiences discomfort due to the inconsistency between their beliefs or values and their actions. The micro example relates to a small, everyday decision, while the macro example involves a major life choice that has long-term implications.

Nollind

In terms of vertical development, what scale is a cognitive dissonance that initiates a transformation to a new stage of development and level of consciousness? Provide an example of this.

Claude

The cognitive dissonance that initiates a transformation to a new stage of development and level of consciousness would typically be considered a macro-scale dissonance. This type of dissonance is profound enough to challenge and potentially reshape an individual’s entire worldview, values system, or way of making meaning.

In terms of vertical development theories (like those proposed by Robert Kegan, Susanne Cook-Greuter, or Ken Wilber), this kind of transformative cognitive dissonance often occurs at the intersection of stages or levels of consciousness. It’s typically characterized by:

  1. A deep, persistent sense of unease or dissatisfaction with one’s current way of understanding the world
  2. Encounters with information or experiences that fundamentally challenge existing mental models
  3. A growing awareness of the limitations of one’s current perspective

An example of this transformative cognitive dissonance might be:

A successful mid-career professional who has always defined themselves by their achievements and social status (characteristic of Kegan’s “Socialized Mind” or Cook-Greuter’s “Achiever” stage) encounters a life-altering event, such as a serious illness or the loss of a loved one. This experience creates profound cognitive dissonance by challenging their existing worldview in several ways:

  1. It confronts them with the limits of control and achievement in the face of mortality
  2. It raises questions about the meaning and purpose of life beyond societal definitions of success
  3. It exposes the inadequacy of their current coping mechanisms and meaning-making systems

This dissonance might initiate a transformation towards a more self-authored identity (Kegan’s “Self-Authoring Mind” or Cook-Greuter’s “Individualist” stage). The individual might begin to:

  • Question societal norms and expectations they previously accepted without thought
  • Seek deeper, more personally meaningful goals and values
  • Develop a more nuanced, systemic understanding of the world and their place in it
  • Become more comfortable with ambiguity and paradox

This transformation isn’t quick or easy. It often involves a period of confusion, soul-searching, and reconstruction of one’s identity and worldview. The resolution of this macro-scale cognitive dissonance results in a qualitatively different way of making meaning and interacting with the world, characteristic of vertical development to a new stage of consciousness.

Nollind

Back to a micro cognitive dissonance. It seems like when a person believes something, the cognitive dissonance occurs when a new piece of information is received that conflicts with what they know. So the person disregards the new info because they can’t believe it. Yet the goal is to actually keep the conflicting information at play, to sort of walk around it and figure it out (perhaps by seeking more info) thus helping to resolve it. But this requires holding onto the tension and exploring rather than resolving it prematurely by disbelieving the conflicting info.

Claude

Your analysis is insightful and captures a key aspect of how cognitive dissonance operates and how it can be productively addressed. Let’s break this down:

  1. Occurrence of cognitive dissonance: You’re correct that cognitive dissonance often arises when new information conflicts with existing beliefs. This creates psychological discomfort.
  2. Common reaction: As you noted, a common initial reaction is to disregard or dismiss the new information. This is a form of dissonance reduction that allows the individual to maintain their existing belief system without the discomfort of contradiction.
  3. More productive approach: The approach you describe – “keeping the conflicting information at play” and “walking around it” – is indeed a more constructive way to handle cognitive dissonance. This approach aligns with concepts in psychology such as:
    • Cognitive complexity: The ability to perceive, differentiate, and integrate multiple perspectives.
    • Tolerance for ambiguity: The capacity to accept uncertainty and conflicting information without immediate resolution.
  4. Benefits of this approach: By holding onto the tension and exploring rather than prematurely resolving it, individuals can:
    • Gain a deeper understanding of the issue
    • Develop more nuanced and flexible thinking
    • Potentially arrive at a more accurate or comprehensive view
    • Enhance critical thinking skills
  5. Challenges: This approach is challenging because:
    • It requires emotional regulation to manage the discomfort of unresolved tension
    • It demands cognitive effort to hold multiple, conflicting ideas in mind simultaneously
    • It may temporarily decrease confidence in one’s beliefs, which can be unsettling
  6. Resolution: The goal, as you suggest, isn’t to immediately resolve the dissonance, but to explore it fully. This might involve seeking more information, considering different perspectives, or reevaluating the strength and basis of existing beliefs.

Your observation highlights an important aspect of cognitive growth and learning. The ability to engage with cognitive dissonance in this way – holding contradictions, seeking understanding, and resisting premature closure – is a hallmark of advanced cognitive development and can lead to more robust and adaptable belief systems.

This approach to handling cognitive dissonance on a micro level can, over time, contribute to macro-level cognitive flexibility and potentially even vertical development, as it trains the mind to engage with complexity and contradiction more effectively.

Nollind

Wait a minute. How does this relate to critical thinking?

Claude

Your question is astute – there’s indeed a strong connection between the approach to cognitive dissonance we discussed and critical thinking. Let me elaborate:

Critical thinking is fundamentally about analyzing information objectively and making reasoned judgments. It involves several key skills that directly relate to how we handle cognitive dissonance:

  1. Questioning assumptions: Critical thinking encourages us to examine our own beliefs and assumptions, which is crucial when facing cognitive dissonance.
  2. Evaluating evidence: When we encounter conflicting information, critical thinking prompts us to assess the quality and reliability of both the new and existing information.
  3. Considering multiple perspectives: Critical thinkers strive to understand various viewpoints, which aligns with the idea of “walking around” conflicting information.
  4. Suspending judgment: This is akin to “holding onto the tension” in cognitive dissonance. Critical thinking involves not jumping to conclusions prematurely.
  5. Analyzing arguments: This skill helps in dissecting both the conflicting information and our existing beliefs to understand their logical structure.
  6. Recognizing biases: Critical thinking involves awareness of cognitive biases, including the tendency to dismiss information that conflicts with our beliefs.
  7. Synthesizing information: This relates to integrating new information with existing knowledge, potentially resolving cognitive dissonance in a more comprehensive way.
  8. Metacognition: Thinking about our own thinking processes is crucial for both critical thinking and managing cognitive dissonance effectively.

The approach to cognitive dissonance we discussed – holding conflicting ideas, exploring them, and seeking more information – is essentially applying critical thinking skills to our own beliefs and the new information we encounter.

By engaging with cognitive dissonance in this way, we’re practicing and strengthening our critical thinking abilities. Conversely, strong critical thinking skills make us better equipped to handle cognitive dissonance productively.

In essence, the relationship between critical thinking and this approach to cognitive dissonance is reciprocal: each reinforces and enhances the other, contributing to more robust, flexible, and accurate thinking overall.

Nollind

But it seems like a lot of people don’t do this. They’d rather just resolve the tension of the cognitive dissonance by disbelieving some of the info which doesn’t actually “resolve” the cognitive dissonance, does it? In effect, they can’t handle the uncertainty and ambiguity, thus they need the certainty…immediately.

Claude

You’ve hit upon a crucial point that highlights a common human tendency and a significant challenge in critical thinking and personal growth.

You’re absolutely correct. Many people do indeed opt for the quick resolution of cognitive dissonance by dismissing or disbelieving conflicting information. This approach doesn’t truly resolve the cognitive dissonance; it merely suppresses it. Here’s why this happens and what it means:

  1. Psychological comfort: Humans generally prefer certainty and consistency in their beliefs. Ambiguity and uncertainty can cause anxiety and discomfort.
  2. Cognitive ease: It’s mentally easier and less energy-intensive to reject new information than to reconsider established beliefs.
  3. Ego protection: Admitting that one’s beliefs might be wrong can be threatening to self-esteem and identity.
  4. Confirmation bias: People tend to seek out information that confirms their existing beliefs and dismiss contradictory evidence.
  5. Need for closure: Some individuals have a higher need for cognitive closure, preferring any answer over uncertainty.
  6. Lack of critical thinking skills: Many people haven’t developed the skills to effectively analyze and integrate conflicting information.
  7. Emotional reasoning: Strong emotions can override logical thinking, leading to quick dismissal of threatening information.

This tendency to quickly “resolve” cognitive dissonance by rejecting new information has several implications:

  • It can lead to rigid thinking and resistance to change.
  • It limits personal growth and learning.
  • It can reinforce misconceptions and false beliefs.
  • It can contribute to polarization in social and political contexts.

You’re right that this approach doesn’t actually resolve the cognitive dissonance in any meaningful way. Instead, it often leads to a superficial sense of certainty that’s built on ignoring or suppressing contradictory evidence.

The ability to tolerate ambiguity, sit with uncertainty, and thoughtfully consider conflicting information is a hallmark of cognitive maturity and advanced critical thinking. However, developing this ability often requires deliberate effort, practice, and sometimes guidance or education.

Recognizing this tendency in ourselves and others is a crucial step towards more nuanced, flexible, and accurate thinking. It underscores the importance of fostering critical thinking skills and the ability to manage cognitive dissonance productively in education and personal development.

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Why Share the Struggles of the Maze?

Just share what you’re learning as you’re learning it.

This is the current adage.

Yet what is the point of sharing what I’m learning here, if it feels like and probably looks like a constant maze to others, especially as one traverses towards the higher levels of consciousness?

Update: This explains why.

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Vertical Development

My Life Is a Stress Dream

The other day I woke up from a stress dream, one filled with anxiety at trying to get someplace by a certain time. I’ve had these before, at least one additional one in the last few months or so, and this one was so bad, I woke up, chuckled to myself, and said, “Geez, these dreams are killing me.”

The dream itself was trying to get to a hotel room a few blocks away by a certain time, so I could meetup with my family and we could all go to the airport and leave on a flight together.

Getting to the hotel by running a few blocks was fairly easy but when I got into the lobby, the hotel was having some charity event and it was full of people. I somehow forget my room number, so I had to line up and ask the hotel clerk what room I was staying in. He reminded me that my room number was on my room key and I laughed at myself for my forgetfulness and ran for the elevator.

When the elevator appeared, it was three quarters full with one lady bringing up a bunch of items for the charity event. Squeezing on to the elevator, I was followed by another lady with buggy, who proceeded to try to get on by ramming her buggy into my knees. I kept yelling at her to stop but she kept doing so and finally squeezed on.

Finally the elevator went up and proceeded to open at the floor above my floor because I had forgotten to push my floor number. Running out of the elevator, I turned to the stairwell doorway, only to find an under construction sign and the stairway being completely rebuilt. However, in squeezing through the wood, I was able to get on a makeshift stairwell and walked precariously down to my floor.

Doing so, I was greet by another under construction sign and a wooden wall barricading access to my floor. By this time, I’ve completely had it and completely freaked out in my dream shouting, “Are you fricken kidding me!!!” At which point, I woke up.

When reflecting upon this later in the morning and thinking about how Zen Buddhism sees life as an illusionary dream, I realized that just like how in my dreams, obstacles were popping up in front of me, blocking my way, so too it seemed that obstacles were popping up in front of me in my life and blocking me.

At the same time, I wondering if it’s because I feel like time is running out in my life and I have to rush to finish my life’s work. Yet in trying to rush and finish it, effectively running around in circles in my head, it feels like I am effectively getting nowhere fast.

All said and done, what I’m trying to say here is that, just like within my stress dream, I’m apparently The One creating the obstacles before me in my own life.

In effect, I’m running around in my head so fast, that I’m not aware of my own cognitive surroundings of knowledge already within my own head.

Again this feeling like, “The answer is out there.” But in reality, it’s not. It’s already within you. You just have to slow down and still yourself enough to become aware of it and see it.

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Vertical Development

Do I Have an Ego Who Toxically Bosses Me Around?

When I was reflecting upon the quotes from the last article I read on toxic bosses, something struck me as rather odd.

They sounded how I felt with regards to my own life’s work.

Our ongoing research indicates that employees under toxic bosses experience decreased confidence, self-esteem, motivation and engagement. They feel stuck, helpless, detached, disengaged, lose passion and commitment to their work..

Does this mean I have an ego which is toxically bossing me around?

This would fit in perfectly as to why I would feel stuck, as my ego would be standing in my way.

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Work Isn't Working

Toxic Bosses Make People Lose Their Passion & Commitment for Their Work

Our ongoing research indicates that employees under toxic bosses experience decreased confidence, self-esteem, motivation and engagement. They feel stuck, helpless, detached, disengaged, lose passion and commitment to their work, and dread going to the office.

These employees also report reduced performance, productivity and negative impacts on their team dynamics and relationships, which leads to a diminished sense of belonging and increased feelings of isolation and distrust toward their workplace.

Laura Hambley
Toxic bosses are a global issue with devastating consequences for organizations and employees
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Vertical Development

Paradoxical Twists

The problems aren’t out there. They’re within me. They’re my perception.

There aren’t any problems to be avoided but rather lessons to be learnt. Life is trying to teach me something, so that I can level up, learn, and grow. (This is the paradox of the Hero’s Journey.)

Stop saying, “Why am I stuck here?” Start saying, “I’m exactly where I need to be. What am I supposed to be learning here?”

I am the one guiding and leading my “self” on these quests because I am the one questioning my assumptions and beliefs.

As long as I am questioning my world(view), I am on the right quest.