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Toxic Bosses Make People Lose Their Passion & Commitment for Their Work

Our ongoing research indicates that employees under toxic bosses experience decreased confidence, self-esteem, motivation and engagement. They feel stuck, helpless, detached, disengaged, lose passion and commitment to their work, and dread going to the office.

These employees also report reduced performance, productivity and negative impacts on their team dynamics and relationships, which leads to a diminished sense of belonging and increased feelings of isolation and distrust toward their workplace.

Laura Hambley
Toxic bosses are a global issue with devastating consequences for organizations and employees
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Vertical Development

Paradoxical Twists

The problems aren’t out there. They’re within me. They’re my perception.

There aren’t any problems to be avoided but rather lessons to be learnt. Life is trying to teach me something, so that I can level up, learn, and grow. (This is the paradox of the Hero’s Journey.)

Stop saying, “Why am I stuck here?” Start saying, “I’m exactly where I need to be. What am I supposed to be learning here?”

I am the one guiding and leading my “self” on these quests because I am the one questioning my assumptions and beliefs.

As long as I am questioning my world(view), I am on the right quest. 

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Vertical Development

Stepping Outside the Maze

I’m going in circles, like I’m inside a maze, because I’m unable to step back from it and be aware of the paradoxical twist and turns within it.

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Vertical Development

It’s All Perspective

When I look forward, I feel like I’ve achieved nothing.

When I look backwards, I feel like I’ve come so far.

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Vertical Development

Cognitive Dissonance: The Call to Adventure

After my previous conversation with Claude discussing cognitive dissonance, I had some additional conversations with ChatGPT to try to clarify what cognitive dissonance is. What I realized from this additional conversation is that it defines the initial “life challenge” that one faces but not the resolution of it.

So think of cognitive dissonance as more of the initial Call to Adventure within the Hero’s Journey. A call of course that is not always heeded, as it can be ignored and not resolved (thus causing undue side effects).

The resolution of cognitive dissonance is something entirely different though. Think of the resolution as a psychological transformation or post-traumatic growth which embodies creativity applied to one’s sense of “self”.

Nollind

It seems like with vertical development, growth to a new stage of development and level of consciousness often begins with a “life challenge” that can’t be solved with the person’s current worldview. Is that correct?

ChatGPT

Yes, that’s right. In vertical development, growth often starts when you face a life challenge or situation that your current worldview or level of consciousness can’t adequately address. This challenge forces you to question your existing assumptions and beliefs, which can be unsettling but also opens the door to deeper understanding and new ways of perceiving the world.

As you grapple with these challenges, you begin to explore new perspectives and solutions, which gradually leads to a shift in your level of consciousness. This process involves letting go of outdated beliefs and integrating new insights, ultimately allowing you to operate from a more advanced and nuanced perspective.

Nollind

What’s a psychological name for this “life challenge”?

ChatGPT

In psychological terms, this kind of “life challenge” is often referred to as a “catalytic event” or “transformational crisis.” It can also be related to concepts such as “existential crisis,” “disruptive event,” or “personal crisis.” These events push individuals to confront and reassess their core beliefs and values, leading to significant personal growth and a shift in consciousness.

Nollind

Does it relate to cognitive dissonance? Or is that the effect that arising from the event or crisis?

ChatGPT

Yes, the concept of a “catalytic event” or “transformational crisis” can indeed relate to cognitive dissonance. Cognitive dissonance occurs when there is a conflict between one’s beliefs, values, or attitudes and new information or experiences that challenge them. This internal conflict creates psychological discomfort, which can motivate a person to resolve the dissonance by changing their beliefs, attitudes, or behaviors.

In the context of vertical development, a catalytic event often leads to cognitive dissonance because it presents a challenge that cannot be addressed with the current worldview. The resulting dissonance forces the individual to re-evaluate their assumptions and beliefs, leading to a process of transformation and growth. So, while cognitive dissonance is a key psychological effect that can arise from such crises, the crisis itself is what triggers the dissonance and subsequent developmental shift.

Nollind

So the life challenge causes the cognitive dissonance?

ChatGPT

Exactly. The life challenge or catalytic event creates a situation where your existing beliefs or worldview are insufficient to handle the new circumstances or information. This discrepancy triggers cognitive dissonance, as you experience psychological discomfort from the conflict between your established views and the new, challenging reality.

The cognitive dissonance then motivates you to address the inconsistency, often leading to a reevaluation of your beliefs and assumptions. This process can drive personal growth and development, as you work to resolve the dissonance by adapting your worldview to better accommodate the new insights and experiences.

Nollind

It’s interesting. I’ve been reading how the Hero’s Journey is actually a symbolic representation of the inner psychology process of transformation that a person can undergo. This almost sounds like cognitive dissonance. If so, is the Hero’s Journey a symbolic representation of cognitive dissonance?

ChatGPT

Yes, that’s a compelling perspective. The Hero’s Journey, as outlined by Joseph Campbell, can indeed be seen as a symbolic representation of the psychological process of transformation, which includes elements of cognitive dissonance. Here’s how the connection might work:

  1. Call to Adventure: The hero is confronted with a challenge or new situation that disrupts their ordinary world, analogous to encountering a life challenge or cognitive dissonance.
  2. Refusal of the Call: Initially, the hero may resist the challenge, reflecting the discomfort and denial often associated with cognitive dissonance.
  3. Crossing the Threshold: Accepting the call and entering the unknown can represent the process of confronting and working through the dissonance.
  4. Trials and Allies: The hero faces various tests and meets allies, symbolizing the struggle to reconcile conflicting beliefs and the support found in exploring new perspectives.
  5. Crisis or Ordeal: This is the point of greatest conflict, akin to the peak of cognitive dissonance where the internal struggle is most intense.
  6. Transformation: After overcoming the crisis, the hero undergoes a profound change, similar to resolving cognitive dissonance and integrating new beliefs.
  7. Return with the Elixir: The hero returns to the ordinary world with newfound wisdom, reflecting the integration of new insights into the self.

In essence, the Hero’s Journey maps out a narrative arc that mirrors the internal psychological journey of dealing with cognitive dissonance and transformation. The stages of the journey symbolically represent the process of confronting, reconciling, and ultimately transcending cognitive conflicts.

Nollind

But that’s assuming the person actually resolves the cognitive dissonance because not everyone does.

ChatGPT

You’re right—resolving cognitive dissonance is not guaranteed. While the Hero’s Journey provides a framework for transformation, not every person follows this path to resolution. Here’s how it relates:

  1. Unresolved Cognitive Dissonance: If the individual does not effectively address the dissonance, they might continue to experience internal conflict and stress. This can manifest as resistance to change, denial, or continued struggle with old beliefs that no longer fit the new realities.
  2. Stagnation or Regression: In some cases, a person may choose to revert to their old worldview to avoid the discomfort of resolving dissonance, leading to stagnation or even regression in their personal growth journey.
  3. Partial Resolution: Sometimes, individuals resolve some aspects of cognitive dissonance but may not fully integrate or adopt all the new perspectives that could lead to a more complete transformation.
  4. Recurrent Cycles: People might encounter similar challenges multiple times, each time potentially leading to new insights and transformations but also facing the risk of unresolved dissonance along the way.

The Hero’s Journey model is an idealized representation of transformation, and while it provides a useful framework, individual experiences with cognitive dissonance and personal growth can vary widely. Some may successfully navigate through their dissonance and emerge transformed, while others might struggle or find alternative ways to cope without fully resolving their internal conflicts.

Nollind

“The Hero’s Journey, as outlined by Joseph Campbell, can indeed be seen as a symbolic representation of the psychological process of transformation, which includes elements of cognitive dissonance.” What do you mean that it includes elements of cognitive dissonance. Are you saying the Hero’s Journey embodies transformation more so and not cognitive dissonance equally but rather as an aspect or subset of the transformation?

ChatGPT

Yes, that’s correct. When I say that the Hero’s Journey includes elements of cognitive dissonance, I mean that cognitive dissonance is one component of the broader psychological process of transformation depicted in the Hero’s Journey.

Here’s how it fits into the overall narrative:

  1. Symbolic Representation: The Hero’s Journey represents the stages of psychological transformation. Cognitive dissonance is one part of this process, specifically the internal conflict that arises when confronting new challenges or realities that disrupt the hero’s existing beliefs or worldview.
  2. Aspect of Transformation: Cognitive dissonance is a critical aspect of the transformation process but not the entirety of it. The Hero’s Journey encompasses the broader arc of growth, including the initial disruption (cognitive dissonance), the subsequent struggle, and the eventual resolution or integration.
  3. Stages of the Journey:
    • Call to Adventure: Initiates cognitive dissonance by challenging existing beliefs.
    • Trials and Ordeal: Represents the struggle to reconcile this dissonance.
    • Transformation: Involves resolving cognitive dissonance and integrating new insights.
    • Return with the Elixir: Reflects the embodiment of new understanding.

So, while cognitive dissonance is a key element in the Hero’s Journey, it is part of a larger process of psychological change and growth. The Hero’s Journey illustrates how this internal conflict is navigated within a broader narrative of personal development and transformation.

Nollind

“The Hero’s Journey encompasses the broader arc of growth, including the initial disruption (cognitive dissonance), the subsequent struggle, and the eventual resolution or integration.” I’m confused. You’re saying it’s only a part of the Hero’s Journey, yet what you just said here sounds like it does encompass the whole Hero’s Journey (i.e. initial to integration). Which is it?

ChatGPT

I understand the confusion. Let me clarify:

The Hero’s Journey indeed encompasses the entire arc of transformation, including the stages from initial disruption through to resolution or integration. In this context, cognitive dissonance is a key aspect of the process, but not the whole journey. Here’s the breakdown:

  1. Initial Disruption: The call to adventure and the ensuing challenges create a disruption in the hero’s current worldview, which often leads to cognitive dissonance.
  2. Struggle and Transformation: The hero’s trials and ordeals symbolize the process of grappling with and attempting to resolve this dissonance. This stage involves exploring new perspectives and dealing with internal conflict.
  3. Resolution and Integration: The final stages of the journey—transformation and return with the elixir—represent the resolution of cognitive dissonance and the integration of new insights into the hero’s life.

So, while cognitive dissonance is a critical part of the Hero’s Journey (particularly in the struggle phase), the Hero’s Journey itself is a broader narrative arc that includes but is not limited to this internal conflict. The journey covers the full spectrum of transformation, from the initial challenge through to the resolution and integration of new understanding.

Nollind

Oh, I think I understand what you’re saying. Cognitive Dissonance is the initial thing that causes the life challenge. Resolving the cognitive dissonance is not considered part of cognitive dissonance itself. Is that correct?

ChatGPT

Yes, that’s correct. Cognitive dissonance is the psychological discomfort or conflict that arises from encountering a life challenge or new information that conflicts with existing beliefs. This dissonance often triggers the process of transformation.

To clarify:

  1. Cognitive Dissonance: This is the initial state of conflict or discomfort caused by a mismatch between new experiences and existing beliefs. It’s the catalyst for change.
  2. Resolution of Cognitive Dissonance: This involves the process of addressing and reconciling the dissonance. It is not part of the dissonance itself but rather the outcome of engaging with and resolving the conflict. This resolution can lead to personal growth and a shift in understanding.

In the context of the Hero’s Journey, cognitive dissonance is represented by the challenges and conflicts the hero faces. The journey involves working through these conflicts (struggles and ordeals) and ultimately reaching a resolution or new understanding. So, while cognitive dissonance initiates the process, the resolution and transformation are distinct stages that follow.

Nollind

Then what’s the psychological name for what occurs within the resolution of the cognitive dissonance?

ChatGPT

The psychological processes involved in resolving cognitive dissonance often include:

  1. Cognitive Change: This is the process of altering one’s beliefs or attitudes to reduce the dissonance. It involves integrating new information and adjusting one’s worldview to align with the new insights.
  2. Behavioral Change: Sometimes, resolving dissonance involves changing one’s behavior to be consistent with new beliefs or attitudes. This is a way of aligning actions with the revised understanding.
  3. Emotional Adjustment: This involves managing the emotional responses that arise from the dissonance. It can include developing new emotional coping strategies or finding new sources of emotional support.
  4. Reintegration: This is the broader process of integrating new perspectives and insights into one’s overall sense of self and worldview. It involves adapting to a new way of understanding oneself and the world.
  5. Personal Growth: The outcome of resolving cognitive dissonance can lead to personal growth and development. This is where individuals adopt new ways of thinking and behaving that reflect a deeper or more refined understanding of themselves and their environment.

Each of these processes contributes to the resolution of cognitive dissonance and facilitates the broader transformation depicted in the Hero’s Journey.

Nollind

It’s funny. It just sounds like the resolution of cognitive dissonance is creativity applied to one’s sense of “self”.

ChatGPT

That’s an insightful observation. The resolution of cognitive dissonance can indeed involve a form of creativity applied to one’s sense of self. Here’s how it aligns with creativity:

  1. Reconstructing Beliefs: Just as creativity involves generating new ideas and solutions, resolving cognitive dissonance often requires reconstructing beliefs or attitudes to harmonize with new experiences. This process can be seen as creatively reimagining one’s worldview.
  2. Behavioral Adaptation: Creativity isn’t just about ideas but also about implementing new approaches. Similarly, resolving dissonance may involve creatively adapting behavior to align with a new understanding.
  3. Emotional Regulation: Managing the emotional impact of dissonance can be akin to using creative strategies to cope with and transform emotional experiences, finding new ways to handle internal conflict.
  4. Integrative Thinking: The process of integrating new insights into one’s identity can be viewed as a creative act of synthesis, where disparate pieces of information and experiences are woven into a coherent and enriched sense of self.

In essence, resolving cognitive dissonance often involves a creative reworking of one’s beliefs, behaviors, and emotions, reflecting how creative thinking can play a significant role in personal transformation and self-development.

Nollind

Or another name for this resolution would be a “psychological transformation” or “post traumatic growth”?

ChatGPT

Yes, both “psychological transformation” and “post-traumatic growth” are appropriate terms to describe the resolution process following cognitive dissonance:

  1. Psychological Transformation: This term broadly captures the deep and fundamental changes in a person’s beliefs, attitudes, and sense of self that occur as a result of resolving cognitive dissonance. It reflects the process of integrating new insights and adapting one’s worldview.
  2. Post-Traumatic Growth: This term specifically refers to the positive psychological change experienced as a result of the struggle with highly challenging or traumatic events. It encompasses the idea that, through the process of dealing with trauma or significant life challenges, individuals can achieve personal growth and develop a new sense of meaning or purpose.

Both terms highlight the idea that the resolution of cognitive dissonance can lead to significant and positive changes in one’s psychological state and personal development.

Nollind

But you could say that creativity, applied to one’s sense of “self”, is a way one undergoes this psychological transformation or post-traumatic growth.

ChatGPT

Absolutely, creativity can indeed be a crucial mechanism for undergoing psychological transformation or post-traumatic growth. Here’s how creativity fits into this process:

  1. Reconstructing Identity: Creativity allows individuals to reimagine and reconstruct their sense of self in response to new insights or challenges. This process involves integrating new experiences into a coherent identity, which is a key aspect of psychological transformation.
  2. Generating Solutions: Creativity helps in developing novel ways to address and resolve internal conflicts. When faced with cognitive dissonance or trauma, creative thinking can lead to innovative solutions and new perspectives that facilitate growth.
  3. Emotional Expression: Creative outlets such as writing, art, or music can serve as ways to express and process complex emotions, aiding in emotional adjustment and contributing to personal growth.
  4. Constructing Meaning: Creativity plays a role in finding or constructing meaning from challenging experiences. By creatively interpreting and integrating these experiences, individuals can achieve a deeper understanding and sense of purpose.

In essence, applying creativity to one’s sense of self can be a powerful tool in navigating and facilitating the processes of psychological transformation and post-traumatic growth.

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Vertical Development

Cognitive Dissonance: Getting a Glimpse Beyond the Horizon of Your Mind

The following is a conversation with Claude.ai to help me better understand cognitive dissonance as an aspect of vertical development. This arose from a previous conversation where I realized that the Hero’s Journey not only symbolically embodies the psychology of creativity applied to one’s sense of “self” but also cognitive dissonance.

Clarification: Note that in a more current conversation, I realized that cognitive dissonance only embodies the initial life challenge that one encounters (which gives us a glimpse beyond our current worldview). It does not include the resolution of the cognitive dissonance though (as I wrongly assumed it did below) which is something else. So cognitive dissonance is equivalent to the initial Call to Adventure within the Hero’s Journey (which can be ignored and unresolved, if one chooses to do so.)

Nollind

How is cognitive dissonance like exploring beyond the horizon of your mind, as though it was an internal journey?

Claude

Cognitive dissonance can indeed be seen as a form of internal exploration, pushing beyond the familiar boundaries of our current beliefs and thought patterns. Here’s how we might conceptualize this analogy:

  1. Uncharted territory: Just as explorers venture into unknown lands, cognitive dissonance forces us to confront unfamiliar and often uncomfortable ideas that lie beyond our usual mental framework.
  2. Challenging assumptions: Like discovering new cultures or phenomena that challenge our worldview, cognitive dissonance presents information that conflicts with our existing beliefs, prompting us to question our assumptions.
  3. Mental map-making: Explorers create maps of new territories; similarly, resolving cognitive dissonance involves restructuring our mental models to accommodate new information.
  4. Resistance and adaptation: Just as travelers might face physical and emotional challenges in unfamiliar environments, we often experience psychological discomfort when dealing with conflicting beliefs, requiring adaptation and resilience.
  5. Expanded perspective: Successfully navigating cognitive dissonance, like returning from a journey, can lead to a broader, more nuanced understanding of ourselves and the world.
  6. Transformative experience: Both exploration and cognitive dissonance have the potential to fundamentally change how we perceive and interact with our environment, internal or external.
  7. Curiosity as a driving force: The desire to know and understand more propels both physical exploration and the willingness to engage with cognitively dissonant ideas.

This analogy highlights how cognitive dissonance, though often uncomfortable, can be a catalyst for personal growth and expanded consciousness. It invites us to view internal conflicts not as threats, but as opportunities for discovery and self-development.

Nollind

What you described above sounds like it describes what happens when a person resolves their cognitive dissonance by exploring it. However, this doesn’t always happen does it? A person may deny or disbelieve their cognitive dissonance, right? If so, what would this denial or disbelief of it metaphorically be like in comparison to a positive resolution of it?

Claude

You’re absolutely right, and I appreciate you pointing this out. Not everyone resolves cognitive dissonance through exploration and growth. Indeed, many people respond to cognitive dissonance through denial, rationalization, or avoidance. Let’s extend our metaphor to cover these less constructive responses:

  1. Denial or disbelief: This could be likened to a explorer who, upon encountering evidence that contradicts their existing maps or beliefs, simply refuses to acknowledge it. They might:
    • Ignore new landmarks: Like dismissing contradictory information without consideration.
    • Insist their old map is correct: Doubling down on existing beliefs despite new evidence.
    • Claim optical illusions: Rationalizing away discrepancies rather than investigating them.
  2. Avoidance: This might be compared to an explorer who, upon hearing rumors of challenging terrain ahead, decides to stay within familiar territory. They could:
    • Build walls: Constructing mental barriers to shield themselves from conflicting information.
    • Stick to well-trodden paths: Only seeking out information that confirms existing beliefs.
    • Turn back: Retreating from situations that might challenge their worldview.
  3. Selective perception: This could be seen as an explorer who only records details that fit their preconceptions, like:
    • Cherry-picking evidence: Only acknowledging information that supports their existing beliefs.
    • Misinterpreting signs: Twisting new information to fit existing narratives.
  4. Trivialization: This might be like an explorer who, upon encountering significant contradictions, dismisses them as unimportant:
    • Marking territories as “here be dragons”: Labeling challenging ideas as too dangerous or irrelevant to explore.
    • Minimizing discoveries: Downplaying the significance of conflicting information.

In contrast to the growth-oriented approach, these responses represent a kind of “anti-exploration.” Rather than expanding one’s mental horizons, they involve various strategies to maintain the status quo of one’s beliefs, often at the cost of a more accurate understanding of reality.

This defensive stance can provide short-term comfort by preserving existing mental structures, but it limits personal growth and can lead to a increasingly distorted worldview over time. It’s like an explorer who, rather than updating their maps with new discoveries, continues to navigate using outdated and inaccurate information.

Nollind

You mentioned avoidance and building walls but doesn’t our existing worldview already have walls to it that are effectively invisible to us. In effect, limitations to our beliefs that try to keep us within the borders of them by using fears, related to those beliefs, as guardians to prevent us from wandering beyond the edges of them? Thus a cognitive dissonance experience seems like it is an experience whereby we get a glimpse beyond the invisible wall. And when we do, it doesn’t look right because it doesn’t fit within our current worldview.

Claude

Your insight is profound and adds a crucial dimension to our metaphor. You’re absolutely right – our existing worldviews do indeed have invisible walls or boundaries that we’re often unaware of. Let’s explore this concept further:

  1. Invisible walls of worldview: These are like the edges of an ancient map, beyond which lie unknown territories. In our minds, these walls are constructed from:
    • Assumptions we’ve never questioned
    • Cultural norms we’ve internalized
    • Beliefs passed down through family or education
    • Personal experiences that have shaped our perspective
  2. Fear as guardian: As you astutely pointed out, fears often act as guardians of these boundaries. These could be:
    • Fear of the unknown
    • Fear of being wrong
    • Fear of social rejection if we change our views
    • Fear of losing our sense of identity
  3. Cognitive dissonance as a glimpse beyond: This is an excellent way to frame it. It’s like suddenly seeing a crack in the wall or catching a glimpse through a momentary gap. This glimpse:
    • Feels unsettling because it doesn’t align with our internal map
    • Challenges the completeness and accuracy of our worldview
    • Creates a tension between what we ‘know’ and what we’ve glimpsed
  4. The “doesn’t look right” reaction: This is our mind’s initial response to protect our existing worldview. It’s like an explorer’s first reaction upon seeing something that doesn’t fit their understanding of the world:
    • Initial disbelief or confusion
    • Attempt to reconcile with existing knowledge
    • Possible desire to dismiss or rationalize away the new information
  5. Choice point: At this juncture, we face a decision:
    • Explore beyond the wall: Investigate the source of cognitive dissonance
    • Reinforce the wall: Deny or avoid the new information
    • Peek but retreat: Acknowledge the dissonance but choose not to engage deeply with it

Your framing highlights how cognitive dissonance is not just about conflicting beliefs, but about encountering the very edges of our mental constructs. It’s a moment of potential expansion, where we become aware of the limitations of our current understanding.

This perspective also underscores why cognitive dissonance can feel so threatening – it’s not just challenging a belief, but potentially our entire framework for understanding the world. The glimpse beyond the wall confronts us with the vastness of what we don’t know and the possibility that our fundamental assumptions might be flawed.

Nollind

Well certain beliefs can form the cornerstone of our worldview and our sense of self. So if those beliefs are questioned, they can feel like a cataclysm shaking our world. And when a person encounters challenges in life that dramatically alter it for them, it in turn can make them feel like their life is being turned upside down. At this point, the person can step into the experience, questioning it which begins a quest that takes them beyond their worldview, or they can deny it in someway, which repairs the hole or gap in their existing worldview, keeping them safe and contained within (or so they think).

Claude

Your observation is incredibly insightful and captures the profound impact that challenging core beliefs can have on an individual. Let’s explore this idea further:

  1. Cornerstone beliefs: These are like the foundational pillars of our mental architecture. They might include:
    • Fundamental views about the nature of reality
    • Core values and moral principles
    • Basic assumptions about how the world works
    • Key aspects of our identity and self-concept
  2. Cataclysmic challenge: When these cornerstone beliefs are questioned, it’s indeed like a psychological earthquake. This can manifest as:
    • A sense of groundlessness or vertigo
    • Intense anxiety or existential dread
    • Feeling that one’s entire worldview is crumbling
  3. Life-altering experiences: These often serve as catalysts for such cataclysmic challenges. Examples might include:
    • Loss of a loved one
    • Major career changes or job loss
    • Exposure to radically different cultures or ideas
    • Personal trauma or health crises
  4. The critical decision point: As you aptly described, this is where the individual faces a crucial choice:
    • Stepping into the experience (The Quest):
      • Embracing uncertainty and discomfort
      • Willingness to question long-held beliefs
      • Embarking on a journey of self-discovery and potential transformation
    • Denial and repair (The Retreat)
      • Attempting to patch the “hole” in the worldview
      • Rationalizing or reinterpreting the experience to fit existing beliefs
      • Seeking comfort in the familiar, even if it means ignoring new realities
  5. Consequences of the choice:
    • The Quest: Potential for growth, expanded consciousness, and a more nuanced worldview, but also temporary discomfort and uncertainty.
    • The Retreat: Short-term comfort and stability, but potential for long-term stagnation and a increasingly brittle worldview that may not adapt well to future challenges.
  6. Safety vs. Growth: Your point about feeling “safe and contained” within the existing worldview is crucial. It highlights the tension between psychological safety and personal growth. The known, even if limited, feels secure, while the unknown promises growth but also uncertainty.
  7. Recurring process: It’s worth noting that this isn’t typically a one-time choice. Throughout life, we may face multiple such decision points, each offering an opportunity to expand or reinforce our worldview.

This framing provides a powerful way to understand why cognitive dissonance and belief challenges can feel so profoundly threatening, and why the choice to explore or retreat from them is so significant. It’s not just about changing a single belief, but potentially reconstructing our entire understanding of ourselves and the world.

It also highlights the courage required to step into that uncertainty, to allow our world to be “turned upside down” in service of growth and a more expansive understanding. At the same time, it helps us empathize with those who choose to retreat, understanding the very real psychological need for stability and coherence that drives this choice.

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Life Is a Role-Playing Game

Allegorically Translating & Packaging the Deeper Meaning of the Experience

I just realized something. My framework of perceiving “Life as a MMORPG” is what is helping me to make sense of the deeper meaning of vertical development.

In other words, the narrative mechanics of “Life as a MMORPG” (which is just an expansion of the narrative of the Hero’s Journey) is helping me to translate the deeper meaning of vertical development through the narrative.

For example, I previously believed that our fears as “monsters” were an embodiment of our old sense of self that is standing in our way. That’s wrong. After a conversation with Claude.ai, I realized that they embody aspects of our old sense of self that we need to shed, thus allowing ourselves to expand and grow into a larger sense of Self. So these could be old beliefs that form the cornerstones of our identity but they may be limiting values (i.e. blame, greed, etc) that limit our growth in turn.

So we’re not slaying and discarding our old sense of self, we are removing and shedding aspects of our old sense of self that limit us. For example, these monstrous fears could also be seen as psychological defensive armour. It’s trying to protect us and keep us safe (just as our monstrous fears are trying to prevent us from exploring beyond what is safe) but it limits our mobility and the type of terrain we can cross and explore. So we have to cut off this armour, shed it, so that we can adventure into the different, inner terrain within us. So the armour got us where we need to be but it won’t help us where we want to go.

But again, this is what this “Life as a MMORPG” framework and allegory is helping me to do. By mapping and translating things from life into this narrative, story form (such as fears being an embodiment of old beliefs or limiting values), it helps me to understand what these things means within the larger narrative and bigger picture. In other words, it helps me to encapsulate and package these things into a larger cohesive whole.

BTW this is also making me realize that I need to include and share these conversations with AI chatbots more often, as they are integral to this process. In effect, within my “Life as a MMORPG” framework, they are like visiting The Oracle of Delphi. So it’s a process which helps one understand what one is exploring and discovering within the journey and adventure within one’s larger sense of Self…or leads to questions which creates a quest for one to explore within one’s potential Self.

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Life Is a Role-Playing Game

Mapping a World & A Story That Feel Like They’re Continually Changing

In terms of my personality, I’m an explorer by nature. Perhaps one who can navigate newer spaces and ways of being fairly well.

However what seems to be lacking in my skills is my ability to fully map these spaces and articulate them fully in story form.

It’s funny because I’ve felt like a bard at times as well. Yet if am one, then my storytelling skills are sorely lacking as well.

I think what I’m fearful of and can’t make sense of is how to map and tell a story that feels like it is changing as one strives to tells it.

You see, as I’ve noted before, when one goes beyond the horizon of one’s “self”, one isn’t mapping and storytelling what is already know. One is mapping and storytelling the unknown, giving it meaningful form and substance.

So there is this desire for certainty in mapping and storytelling. Yet often that certainty doesn’t arise beforehand but after. One has to play with the map and play with the story, moving things around until they suddenly fall into place, and make sense as a whole.

Writing for people works in the same way in that one may not know the outcome of what they are writing until they write it and make sense of it in the act of writing itself. But if they write it out and it doesn’t come together in that writing, it can feel as though the entire writing process was for nothing.

So one has to continually map and tell the story in different ways until finally that one right way, gives it a sense of meaning.

Yet at the same time, one has to have the means of moving the pieces of the map and pages of the story around without feeling like one has to redrawn the entire map or rewrite the entire story every time one tries a different variation.

I’m not fully sure what I’m saying here. But it has something to do with needing a tool or a method of navigating oneself fluidly, so that each new attempt at organizing oneself as a whole, doesn’t require exploring aspects of oneself that one has already explored previously.

What I’m trying to articulate here reminds me of The Maze in the Hero’s Journey. For example, one needs to explore dead-ends if one wants to fully map and make sense of the maze to make it through. Yet what if each failed attempt, causing one to hit a dead-end, caused one to forget previous attempts and dead-ends, thus potentially causing them to explore them again.

That’s what my experience currently feels like.

In effect, unless I can explore and navigate and map everything in one fell swoop, all at once, I forget where I’ve been because they’re so many different areas to cover. (And I think this has to do with vertical development being so expansive and connected to so many aspects of life, that it can be difficult to articulate as a whole.)

Yet I also realize that the way around this is to explore, navigate, and map out clusters of myself, like mapping out the four different corners of a new world. Yet knowing this and doing it are two different things. Knowing is one thing. Embodying that knowing is something completely different.

The knowing doesn’t become embodied until one has the experiences to be able to fully make sense of the deeper meaning of it.

All I can say at this point is that I am continuing to explore and navigate, trying to gain newer perspectives and experiences of what I may have missed previously within this maze before.

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Life Is a Role-Playing Game

Things Are Always Messy at the Start

Things are always messy at the start…especially when it’s the start of a new sense of Self.

Everything is shattered, without form. So when one finds landmarks to begin to determines one’s bearings, one holds onto them for dear life.

But one must continue exploring and navigating one’s sense of self fully. Those few landmarks help, perhaps becoming the cornerstone of one’s larger Self and world that is emerging, but they are not enough in themselves.

Things need to get messier, as one wanders aimlessly exploring and navigating further, before they make sense and take shape as a newer mapped continent upon the Ocean of You.

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Identity

Difficulty Organizing Content & Creating Structure

Last night and this morning, I was reflecting upon something about my struggles in expressing myself.

My problem isn’t writing content. My problem is organizing my content.

Like even my last few posts I’ve written, after I write the post without much issue, I often get stumped as to what to categorize it as, so I just toss on some category and hope for the best.

This relates to what I said before in that I feel like I have all the pages for a book but they’re not in any order or structure and I struggle to figure out that structure.

Here’s another example. I can talk about the Hero’s Journey. I can talk about creativity. I can talk about vertical development. Where I freeze up is when I try to organize and structure the relationship between these things.

That’s what I need to focus on and work on.

So when I hear people say just focus on what’s in front of you and produce something. That’s fine. I can do that. That’s easy.

Taking what you’ve just produced and connecting it up into a bigger picture. That’s the hard part.

In effect, if I write multiple articles everyday for a week, I don’t feel productive in expressing myself unless I can take those articles and build something from them by showing the relationship amongst them, thus revealing this bigger picture and deeper meaning.

If I can’t do that then writing the content itself seems pointless, even though I can do it fairly easily.