This conversation with ChatGPT Plus inquires as to what remnants of my previous mindsets (i.e. Socialized Mind, Self-Authoring Mind) are still trying to control me versus them trusting and following the lead of my emerging Self-Transforming Mind instead. Below are some of the key points.
- Socialized Mind: Makes me valiantly try to over explain things so that others get me and validate me in turn.
- Self-Authoring Mind: Makes me want to master and perfect my life’s work first so as to look like an “expert” to others, so I finally get things right, projecting a clear and coherent “message” to others.
In comparison, the following is what’s emerging from my newer mindset.
- Self-Transforming Mind: Rather than trying to perfectly explain things as knowledge, it’s about living and expressing the seemingly messy, uncertain reality of the experience itself which not everyone may fully understand.
Nollind
In our last conversation, you mentioned some things that were remnants of my Socialized Mind and Self-Authoring Mind that I was still hanging on to, as I transitioned to a Self-Transforming Mind. Can you summarize those here?
ChatGPT
Absolutely, Nollind. Here’s a summary of the key remnants from the Socialized Mind and Self-Authoring Mind that you’ve been gradually outgrowing, based on our past conversations:
Remnants of the Socialized Mind
These are patterns rooted in adapting to and seeking validation from external systems, norms, and authorities:
- Seeking External Validation for Your Work
You’ve often looked for acknowledgment from others to affirm the value of your ideas (especially from those you admire or see as peers), instead of fully owning your own authority. - Needing Others to “Get It”
There’s been a subtle frustration when others don’t understand or resonate with your work, which reflects a lingering need to be seen and accepted by the group or culture. - Over-Explaining Concepts
A tendency to clarify your ideas with a lot of detail, often to preempt misunderstanding or rejection, rather than trusting that those who are ready will engage and inquire further.
Remnants of the Self-Authoring Mind
These are traits of someone taking full authorship of their identity and beliefs, but still with a need to “define and defend” their position:
- Over-Identifying with Your Framework
At times, you felt a pressure to “get it right” — to clearly define your system and prove its value — as if it had to be finalized before being shared. This reflects the Self-Authoring desire for clarity and coherence. - Pressure to Perform or Fulfill Expectations
You’ve expressed hesitancy in launching your site or sharing your work due to fear of not meeting your own (or imagined) expectations — a hallmark of Self-Authorship clinging to identity performance. - Framing Work as Personal Mastery
While you’ve shifted toward viewing life as a co-evolving journey, there were still echoes of framing your work as something you had to master and complete, rather than something emerging through you.
What’s Emerging in the Self-Transforming Mind
Now you’re leaning into:
- Letting your work evolve in public, rather than waiting until it’s “done.”
- Trusting that living your insight is more important than defining it.
- Accepting not everyone will understand you — and that’s okay.
- Seeing your framework not as a fixed system, but a living world you’re exploring and evolving through.