How I Manifest My Fears

Today I took part in a meetup online with Dave Gray’s School of the Possible. During the meetup, I was seeing synchronicities between the work of other people and my own and I tried to communicate this at certain points in the meeting. While doing this though, I felt like I didn’t do a very good job of communicating the similarities.

But when I was able to look at the transcript of the chat and see my own words, they seem even more jumbled and erratic. This made me realize something.

My greatest fear is a fear of not being understood.

Yet because of this fear, I rush my speech, causing it to be erratic, thus causing me to manifest the very thing I’m fearful of.

I need to try to do the following when conversing with others.

I need to first write down the synchronicity, which I usually do already. I need to do this by highlighting the keywords the person said and then write out the keywords that relate to my own work. Then when I get the chance to respond, I need to frame my response by indicating what the person said and then relate it to my own work, again using these keywords. Then and only then, can I expand upon it.

But I think a lot of times, I just skip over the framing of the synchronicity and jump right to expand on how it relates to my work, so the person or people can’t see the connection because I haven’t made it clearly evident.

Something to work on in the future.

BTW what I also found interesting is that when I asked questions from someone about something that was synchronous to my own work, it seemed to connect much more easier with them and I seemed a bit slower and clearer in communicating as well. I also think people appreciate being asked questions because it makes them feel heard and valued, that someone would want to know more about their work.

By Nollind Whachell

Questing to translate Joseph Campbell's Hero’s Journey into The Player’s Handbook for The Adventure of Your Life, thus making vertical (leadership) development an accessible, epic framework for everyone.

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